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Tuesday, March 2, 2010

I LOVE THIS CAMPAIGN

WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR YOUR MARRIAGE TODAY?

Though my husband and I are not Catholic; we do believe in belief.

The website:
http://www.foryourmarriage.org/interior_template.asp?id=20399007

Each time I see a commercial from this campaign, I do think to myself.  Have I been kind and gentler to the man who makes my life more complete?

So, to live up to a self imposed crusade of bringing joy to our everday lives I have resolved to give:

1. A saucy email to hubby in our own private language so as to not, alert government censors at his work.  (yes, we speak Redneck and Beanerease.)

2.  Do small things without taking count for what he does or does not do?  Folks stop being bankers in your marriage. 

3.  Bring him a cold beer when he finally sits down to watch the news.  Yes, its old fashioned but what the hell?  He gets up at 3:30 am to get home at 5 pm; so I can carry my fat arse up and down the stairs for him at least once a day.

4.  Flirt with the man; he is after all the father of our boys. He deserves to feel like he is desired.

5.  Wash his drawers and socks so, he doesn't have to worry about the small minutia.  He spends three hours on the road each day plus ten hours on the job.  I can at least have his work clothes ready, pack his lunch and set the coffee pot.  (I keep his clothes smelling like Downy Fresh, with a note tucked into his pockets ---- a rare special treat.)

6.  Resolve that while he is our primary income earner it is my job to cut out waste in order, to increase our savings while paying off all bills.

7.  No nagging, if he doesn't do something to my standards so be it.  Either I will live with it ---- or do it my own self. 

Since, recognizing the worth of 'recognizing' the importance of our roles (yes, a tad bit boorish and gender drawn) at this point in the marriage.  Our lives have been happier.  We work more together, play, laugh, communicate effectively, and I don't lay awake second guessing my own poor behavior. 

Yes, I was the one who started this changes but, he too has responded in such a positive manner.  He rushed home yesterday early just to replace the alternator on our old farm truck. Three weeks ago, I would have had to wait until he had a day off.  

Thank you Catholic Church!

6 comments:

Chicken Boys said...

Sounds like a great plan. It's hard to do unless you get it into a routine. Then you gotta maintain it. Beeville wasn't my fav, either. My aunt and uncle live there, but he owns a construction company (J.J. Fox Construction) and has a ton of money. They have a 4,000 sq. ft. house with 82 acres. But then, they didn't make us feel all that welcome, either. So be it. We're happy with our little half acre and chickens, dogs, and cats.
~Randy

Jack & Jill said...

For sure, you reap what you sow! Spreading some love will get more in return. The old nagging wife, will have a bitter old man, and vice versa. DH has the day off, going to spread some honey instead of "Honey Do". Have a great day!

Nekkid Chicken said...

Randy, My life is routine. Wake up at the butt crack of dawn. Drink coffee, (get Saenz up and to school M-F), feed critters, feed family, clean, and laundry all before 9 am. LOL

I am very fortunate to be married to hubby for 14 years. I am the TYPE A, he is a workaholic but way laid back. Nice pairing ehhhh?

Nekkid Chicken said...

OOOH

Takes out video to tape the honey for YOUTUBE! LOL

Texan said...

I think these things are wonderful! Good for you and your DH :O)...

I so agree and I like the way Jack&amp Jill said it...
The old nagging wife, will have a bitter old man...

I wouldn't know what to do with out my honeyman...he is truly my world and I try hard to let him know it.. and he does the same with me... 27 yrs and we are still head over heels in love... ;O)

Nekkid Chicken said...

27 years sounds like bliss to me. We are going on double lucky number 14. Heck outside my mother, this is the longest lasting relationship I have ever had. I left home at 15, so I have really cleaved to my husband and marriage more so than to my blood -- he is my rock -- always steady; always there.