As you know, we decided to homeschool our sons. I have been careful and systematic in adding new subjects to test the abilities of our oldest's knowledge level so, I could build a curriculum around his needs. Mind you he was in the public school system since the age of four begining with Headstart -- 8 years. I was told many things about my son; many arm chair psychologists, doctor, educational specialists. List see the laundry list begining at age 4 when he entered their system:
TURETS, ASPERGER, AUTISM, ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER, ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER WITH HYPERACTIVITY, CAN'T FOCUS, CAN'T SIT STILL, FIDGETS, and others.
Now mind you since, grades were a benchmark to show progress in school. His report cards and progress reports have been A/B mix never a failing grade or a behavior markdown. EVER!
EVER, comments have been WHAT A DELIGHTFUL CHILD, SUCH A RESPECTFUL CHILD, Sensitive Child, SUCH creativity, etc etc etc.
Okay let's flash forward to what I know. At age twelve he was going to be passed into the 6th grade. He did not know his multiplication tables, cursive, and apparently --- are you ready for this.
SPELLING, GRAMMAR, PENSMANSHIP, This was a sample of his five sentences after reading 'How to Eat Fried Worms,' a book which is a third grade level -- a fast humorous read so; I could assess his understanding and gauge the other aspects of comprehension after reading.
I ---- his mother got a serious kick in the gut. I can barely read to type this; my hands are shaking from anger - disgust - and the realization. I ALMOST FAILED MY SON AS A PARENT. I FAILED HIM FOR EIGHT YEARS. This what my son knew but, could not elaborate all those meltdowns, all those sick days, all those crying jags.
My son, was being set up for failure by a school system hemmed in by ridiculous laws, policies and guidelines in order, to continue receiving monies on his behalf.
Off my egg crate.....
SPECIAL NOTE TO ADD HERE: I was given 'subterfuge' assignments for his homework. The changes were so subtle; I did not notice how little my son was expected to accomplish. I trusted a system which was using my son, pushing him through, a paycheck.
Trust me when I say this..... I am a guilty party in this scenario. As this world as my witness:
IT WILL NO LONGER BE THE CASE.