This weekend Directv has a free promo weekend allowing us to view HBO programming. I stumbled on a documentary called 'The Strange History of: Don't Ask, Don't Tell." This is a great documentary for outlining the historical policies / discussions behind the decision to allow 'gays' to serve in the military.
(Shakes head here --- because they have been and will always be a part of humanity and not just seeking admittance to a single group.)
Now you are probably wondering why I am writing about this topic? Right.....
Simple, I served from March 1986 until April 2006 in the United States Air Force. My first job was in the intelligence field. We had to attain, maintain, and retain a top secret clearance to just be able to work. No problem right for most service members however, there is a caveat for serving honestly (honor code) and keeping no secrets -- to inform on other service members of their unlawful behavior to include what was then thought to be sexual misconduct.
My first room mate was a lesbian and when I moved into our then room; she informed me at great peril to her career. Personally, I did not care about her personal behavior and did not see homosexuality as a problem. One reason for my acceptance of her and to not inform my superiors was simple. I knew of a couple of family members who were also lesbians (though closeted) and knew homosexuality did not keep them from living honorable lives. They had families, jobs, hopes and dreams. I decided to love my friend more than myself and honor her disclosure even though I could have lost my career by staying silent.
Later in 1993, when DADT was passed I never understood the big deal because American soliders for the most part had already been living with that standard. What chapped my arse was the DISHONESTY of DADT; the military was advising its members to stay silent. To me the double standard was humiliating and dishonorable because to lie by omission is still a lie. Why did I not 'TELL' was quiet a simple rationalization in my thinking process and I used a 4 Star's quote to cement my silence in uniform.
"Integrity is what you do when no on is looking,' RET Gen M. McPeak.
I still choose to support the gay community to have the same laws to include marriage recognition as a man/woman has the right. When 'we the government' deny one group its inalienable rights to pursue their lives in the manner of their choosing then; the next step of the community is to limit others.
The marriage arugment is a kicker because it was once a form of property laws awarded to a man. Marriage bound a woman to a man and all she brought with her into the marriage became the property of her husband. And if one was to research even further to say 'rape,' this was also a property law because women either were the property of their fathers or husbands. Meaning if a woman was raped it was a crime committed against her father or her husband. (sobering thought eh?)
Nowadays, marriage definitions have changed THANK GOODNESS. This is just my humble opinion; if a person wants to marry is it not my business to say if they are awarded that right as long as both parties are adults. If a person is gay; it is not my business what life choices they make as long as he / she is an adult.
ENOUGH SAID ALREADY!
Keep government out of our bedrooms, homes, and careers!
Have a great day in your slices of heaven.